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A GREAT life coach helps you to see your own GREATNESS

I’m a contrarian. My parents taught me to question authority, to never take anything at face value. In considering this piece, I will admit having slight trepidation. The reasons are numerous. As a contrarian I offer advice that is not always in line with the status quo. I don’t like the status quo. I believe greatness comes from doing things your way and not from imitation. And yet I am human. Unlike my contrarian personality, I want to offer sound advice to be accepted. I still want to “fit in.”

            Understand that I believe in the power of positive thinking. I’m also a pragmatist. I have seen much evidence to support the concept of the power of positive thinking by the people who have overcome great adversity. They read and absorb motivational quotes. They listen to motivational tapes. They seek a kind word or encouraging quote written across a t-shirt. Substantial quotes present ideas to feed their minds. These ideas are the fuel helping them to “see” a difficulty or a problem in a different way. This inspiration drives them. They commit to inspiration with perseverance, knowing eventually that their desired outcomes will manifest. Enter Jerry’s contrarian personna.

            Many clients interpret the “coach” word literally. They think our place is to become a cheerleader. Often they fail to see how inspiration combined with perspiration is the recipe needed to change. The laws of attraction are possible only in combination with supporting “actions.” We may dream of winning the lottery; then visualizing how would invest, save, spend and live with millions of dollars; all for naught if we aren’t willing to stop and buy a lottery ticket. 

            Imagine a person as a fully fueled F-15, standing at the end of the runway. Imagine further that person-jet, full power on and full brakes. That person-jet will never fly unless the brakes are released and the engines are allowed to do their job. Experienced pilots never consciously apply any law of physics; they simply know that the two engines are capable of producing 60,000 pounds of thrust. An airplane weighing only 30,000 pounds will fly vertically like a rocket. How many clients understand that they possess same power of vertical flight, yet lack the faith of possibility thinking? How many are willing to test their boundaries?

            As a coach, I face those same challenges every day. I walk a fine line between coaching and counseling. Strict codes of confidentiality must be adhered to. I must have the same confidence and courage that I seek to instill in my clients. I realize any motivational quote is useless without action. It doesn’t guarantee winning a lottery. Credibility comes with doing as I say for myself, to lead by example as it were. Sometimes my greatest courage comes in remaining objective and not jumping up and trying to fix a problem that is theirs alone to fix.

 

Jerry Pociask